Kids and our relationships

For those of you that have children, you may be very familiar with the excuse of not having any time for each other or no intimacy because you have children.

You might catch yourself saying you just don’t have the time or you are always tired and since you've had children, you just don’t feel like it anymore.

The fact is when we have kids, our life certainly changes but the way we find time for each will change too

But that can also be fun

When I was on holiday, we were in the same room as my little one which provided some interesting adaption

I don’t generally feel comfortable being intimate in the same room (even if we are super quiet!) but it meant we were a lot more creative with our time together

We had fun in the shower when the little one slept, had beautiful snatches of intimacy, snogs and beautiful hugs when the mood caught us

We didn’t have sex nearly as much as we normally do but our intimacy levels most definitely increased and meant when we did make love, it was even more yummy

The first step to making changes when you find yourself distracted by life (and quite often the little ones) is to:

Sit down and have a chat about what you both would really like in terms of intimacy and don’t be surprised if it’s different, we are all wired differently and relationships are all about compromise 

Set an intention to be intimate EVERYDAY and remember that doesn’t have to mean SEX – maybe you can just agree that you will start your day with a beautiful kiss and end it with a cuddle

You have to start somewhere and YES life is busy but your relationship is important 

Make time, communicate to each other and feel the magic of being connected

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